Tag: politics

Essay, Writing

Old Dogs, New Tricks

One of the greatest untruths that we commonly accept is that old dogs can’t learn new tricks. Not only is that entirely untrue for dogs, who both can learn and enjoy learning new tricks, throughout their lives, it is untrue for humans as well. My father, as many of you know, was raised in the …

Essay, Writing

Men, Women, and #MeToo

#MeToo Anthology

This essay appears in the 2017 anthology #MeToo: Essays About How and Why This Happened, What It Means and How to Make Sure It Never Happens Again, edited by Lori Perkins, under the name Jude M. Lucien. I’m reading lots and lots of experiences of harassment, assault, and rape. These things are always wrong. They’re …

Essay, Writing

On Guilt & White Privilege

Race is an accident of birth. Acting like an asshole is a choice. Often, when I criticize racism or acknowledge racial inequality (both online and in meatlife), some white person accuses me of acting out of white guilt. That’s hilarious to me. Guilty people rarely act. Guilt is an immobilizing emotion. Fortunately, it’s not an …

Essay, Writing

Psychological Self-Defense, The Golden Rule, & Finding the Line

It comes up repeatedly in various places: How should we treat groups that dominate/oppress us? How much is it okay to mock them? How much is it okay to ‘other’ them? How much is it okay to dehumanize them? It’s all very nice to think that we should all treat one another as we’d like …

Essay, Writing

We Need Champions: Violence, Intervention, & Us

It’s so fucking hard to intervene. By hard, I mean that it’s fucking terrifying. Especially when you’re someone who is sometimes targeted yourself. You may be someone who has been beaten yourself. Someone who knows that people want you dead. It’s the scariest thing in the world. You might get beaten if you intervene. You …

Essay, Writing

Ethics, Not Allies

I do and say what I believe is right. Rightists think that there’s some Leftist party line, where all Leftists think alike. Really, we don’t. We fight amongst ourselves enough to often undermine our causes. But we do it for the greater good. I’m a white, working-poor (poor summary of a really complicated history and …

Story, Writing

Trump: Bringing Families Together

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been fascinated by ethics, and their implementation. Perhaps as a result of that, when I was a kid, I was really interested in voting. My parents, having grown up in the Jim Crow South, even as whites, are very aware of voting as a right for which …

Essay, Writing

What Queer Means To Me

People often ask me exactly what I mean by ‘queer’ and why I distinguish it from ‘lesbian’ or ‘gay’. This was my response, and this is what queer means to me: Queer is typically used in two ways: 1. Queer is used as an umbrella term to try to include everyone who isn’t entirely normative …