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Essay, Writing

Triggers Are Distinct From Offense

I purposefully don’t use the word “triggered” in reference to what pisses me off, online or anywhere else. I don’t use it, because I’m not triggered by those things. I’m offended and appalled by a shit-ton of things that y’all post or say; I’m often irritated by things that you post or, and once in …

Essay, Writing

Old Dogs, New Tricks

One of the greatest untruths that we commonly accept is that old dogs can’t learn new tricks. Not only is that entirely untrue for dogs, who both can learn and enjoy learning new tricks, throughout their lives, it is untrue for humans as well. My father, as many of you know, was raised in the …

Essay, Writing

Men, Women, and #MeToo

#MeToo Anthology

This essay appears in the 2017 anthology #MeToo: Essays About How and Why This Happened, What It Means and How to Make Sure It Never Happens Again, edited by Lori Perkins, under the name Jude M. Lucien. I’m reading lots and lots of experiences of harassment, assault, and rape. These things are always wrong. They’re …

Story, Writing

The Girl In The Pink Tutu, Or My Patty Hearst

In the fall of 1997, I lived in a flea infested, two bedroom apartment, just off of campus. We’d turned the dining room into a third bedroom, and hung blankets from the ceiling, to wall it off. The third person got us down to $250 a month in rent. We’d also nailed blankets up over …

Story, Writing

Escape (In A Chrysler Valare)

I only applied to one college. It was the cheapest school in the state. I just looked at the prices, in the big binder, found the $2400/year tuition, and didn’t look further. Afterwards, I learned that it was an alternative school. People kept warning me that the girls there didn’t shave their legs. I didn’t …

Essay, Writing

Social Networks, Catholicism, & Social Justice Community

I am, according to critics, an SJW. My friends are SJWs. Every last one of us contributes beyond the keyboard. But we’re all here too, in online communities. I don’t have any trouble finding news, or jokes, or porn, and I don’t need social networks for any of those things. I stick around for the …

Essay, Writing

On Guilt & White Privilege

Race is an accident of birth. Acting like an asshole is a choice. Often, when I criticize racism or acknowledge racial inequality (both online and in meatlife), some white person accuses me of acting out of white guilt. That’s hilarious to me. Guilty people rarely act. Guilt is an immobilizing emotion. Fortunately, it’s not an …